Friday, July 4, 2014
To Family and Friends of Batterers Intervention Program Participants
It is extremely important for you to be realistic in your expectations of what will be accomplished in a batterers intervention program. Often times participants that enroll in a program on their own, without being court ordered, drop out prior to completing the entire program. Participants mandated to programs by courts are also sometimes (due to circumstances beyond the agency's control) not required to complete the entire program successfully.
Be aware, studies at my programs have shown that 88% of people who drop out of the program (whether court ordered or self referred) without completing are soon arrested. If your partner quits attending before they complete the WHOLE program there is a very high possibility you and your family are in danger of being abused.
I strongly encourage you to contact the domestic violence hotline at 1-800-322-7385 and get connected to a local advocate to help you develop a safety plan. Please do not accept your partner's reasons/excuses/justifications for dropping out of a batterers intervention program to convince yourself not to plan for the safety of you and your family.
My program is specifically designed with the intent and purpose of ending abuse and violence in all forms. We attempt to address all levels of violence including verbal abuse, emotional abuse, sexual abuse, and physical abuse. However, our experience has shown that sometimes participants have taken information presented in our program, twisted it's meaning, and subsequently attempted to use the information as a manipulation tactic. I want you to be aware that if something one of our clients brings home doesn't quite sound right, this is likely what is happening.
My first priority in my program is your welfare and safety. In this regard, please take this notice as an invitation to contact me in any event that you have a question about anything that was said, taught, or talked about in one of our classes. Any conversation I or my staff have with you will be held in the strictest confidence and we will not tell our program participant that we even spoke with you unless you specifically request that we do so. Our studies have shown that less than ten percent of individuals who COMPLETE our entire program are arrested again for any crime. However, please understand, it is safest to assume your partner will be the one in ten that continues to be abusive. So do not assume you and your family are safe just because your partner attends or completes our program.
If you wish to learn how to accurately determine if your partner is improving, come and visit our program yourself for free and learn what we teach.